Wednesday, April 26, 2006

Death - Working towards and leaving behind

My friend's mum passed away last night after a long bout of a debilitating illness for more than two years. I felt sad for my friend, but what I was especially sorry about was that she died with a lot of 'unfinished business' – a refusal to forgive a husband who left her, broken relationships with her daughter and son, and (as far as I know) a sometimes critical attitude towards the only son (my friend) who was faithful in taking care of her in her last few years.

These two long years of grave illness could have been a time of healing for the family. I have had conversations with this friend of mine - pleading with him to encourage his mum to let go - first by himself forgiving his own dad and showing the way for his mum to find the peace. But it did not happen.

This incident made me think heavy thoughts...

It made me consider. Do I want to be on my deathbed and leave loved ones with the pain of so much baggage? Maybe in the spur of the moment or the forgetfulness of youth, we do not want to bother. But in considering what really matters in life's fleeting horizon, we need to bother much:
    What have we forgotten to say to others (in the right detail)? Are we living with our eyes forwards or backwards? What imprisons us (or others, as a result of our actions) from fully embracing the truth that sets us free? What have we put off doing that constitutes the stuff of our lifelong dreams? Do we know what the Lord's specific purpose for our lives and the difference we are put here to make?
As children of the living God, because the Saviour Jesus Christ has taken away the curse of death through His sacrifice on the cross, we have the assurance of salvation after we leave this earth:
    "God himself shall be with them, and be their God. And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away." (Revelation 21:3-4)

Lord, teach us to number our days that we may gain a heart of wisdomFor us in Christ, there is a glory beyond what we can think or imagine in passing on from this earth. Yes - there is life after death. But ask the important question: Is there life before death?

That's a sombre question to consider.

Remember to number your days carefully and live wisely.

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Comments:
Thanks for your blog. God has been speaking to me about forgiveness and freedom in Christ lately. Having a dad who is unfaithful and for some, dad who repeats their sins again and again is not easy for any child. You have asked, “What imprisons us (or others, as a result of our actions) from fully embracing the truth that sets us free?”. For your friend and for many others whose dad had committed adultery – it is unforgiveness. I have been encouraged by this article on “Forgiveness” from the following website (http://www.christian.connections-c.com/for.html). For those who have been hurt deeply by loved ones and friends, this is definitely a worthwhile article to read. Keep on encouraging your friend as there is still hope for your friend to walk free again one day.

 
his precious child--
Thank you for your sharing and pointing to other resources. I am certain that it will speak to many others in the same situation.

I hope that you will continue to embrace what the God has been speaking to you about. Take care.

~Sallibuc

 
Most of us die at a time expected from illness. some of us are taken unexpectedly or recover. Some have unfinished business left for others to put closure to. No matter which way it goes we all need prayer. This is the most effective one I know: "Oh holy St Jude, apostle and martyr, near kinsman of Jesus christ, faithful intercessor of all who invoke your patronage in time of need, to you I have recourse from the depth of my heart and humbly beg to whom God has given such great power; to come to my assistance and help me in my present need (mention request for it will be granted). In return I promise to make your name known, to causse you to be invoked and I promise you publication. (follow by 3 of each: Our Fathers, Hail Marys, and Glory bes: Our father who art in heaven hallowed be thy name, thy kingdom come, thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day our daily bread and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us and lead us not into temptation but deliver us from evil...hail Mary full of grace the Lord is with thee, blessed art thou amongst women and blessed is the fruit of thy womb Jesus. Holy Mary mother of God pray for us sinners now and at the hour of our death amen....Glory be to the Father and to the Son and to the Holy Spirit, as it was in the beginning, is now and ever shall be, world without end amen.")(remember to offer each prayer 3x and to keep your promise to make his name known, cause saint Jude to be invoked and put this out in public for others. Any time you can ask others to pray with you to the brother of Jesus (St Jude who is the patron of hopeless cases) your prayer will be more powerful just as the prayers of the congregation were in releasing St Paul from prison. You should pray the prayers for 3 consecutive days.) Many blessings.

 
Sassaloosa--
I agree that most of us need prayer during times like these but you need to remember that the power to help us is not in the prayer - but in the Person and the name whom we pray to i.e. Jesus Christ.

We cannot 'invoke' God's blessing or help the way we would like to. God is not a genie whom we can rub a lamp to get Him to grant us our wishes.

God looks at our heart when we pray; even when words are less than eloquent, God sees.

 

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